TAPESTRIES

"I AM NOT LIKE EVERY OTHER MAN" - Dating Tactics - #1

Put on your sh*@ kickers ladies because this stud bull is gonna be dropping a lot of it right at your feet.  Red flags should be popping up all over the place when you hear a line like this one. 

If he thinks it's necessary for him to TELL YOU that he isn't like every other man, then chances are, he probably is. 

Let's face it, not all men are alike! And, I am sure that you have probably grown weary from hearing that, time after time.  But, any woman who has ever been with a man for any length of time, can testify to the fact that most of them respond to situations in very similar ways.  They either ignore the reality...in a way similar to that of a deer caught in your headlights that your getting ready to pummel over with your car...and pretend it isn't happening.  Or, they take a take a running jump and execute a flawless swan dive, only to plunge head first into a rock quarry.

So, the time has come, ladies, for you to take off those rose-colored glasses and put your bifocals back on.  He has just laid down a beautiful cobblestone path, just for you (ahwwwha how sweet), that leads straight into a huge bear trap! 

The fact is that when a man feels it necessary to tell you that he is, most assuredly, "Not like other men", YOU ARE NOT THE PERSON THAT HE IS TRYING TO CONVINCE!  HE IS, HOWEVER, TRYING TO CONVINCE HIMSELF!  And through some power of, oh I don't know, affirmation to his subconscious, he feels that if he repeats it over and over to himself (and to you) that somehow it will magicly be true. 

Commit that fact to memory, because it is gonna save you a lot of money on hospital bills, later. Do you see that bear trap in front of you?!  Either walk around that sucker, or sprint your a$$ in another direction, but don't step right into it!

There is another way to handle this situation, which by the way is my personal favorite and one that I most often use.  If you don't care for the "passive" path of walking around, or running away from the looming danger, then feel free to take advantage of the "military tactics" that I prefer to use. 

La dee dah...la tee dee, I sing as I walk down the gorgeous path he has laid for me.  And yes, every time, I see the same sunbeams that you do.  I, too, admire the way that they slide through the trees and illuminate my way as though nothing could, possibly, go wrong. I watch them with hope, and like an innocent butterfly I float along, happy as can be.  On my way, as I glide through the air, I swoop down and take small tree limb into my wings.  

I fly right over to the bear trap, that I inevitably new was going to be there, and cram that tree branch in it, and spring the sucker!

The moral of the story is:

If you choose to walk around in naievity and just let things happen to you, then you can count on being shocked and dissapointed on a regular basis.  Instead, walk in awareness, be prepared, and take control into your own hands before it has the chance to bite you in the A$$.

Call his bluff!  Be assertive, and let him know that "Actions speak louder than words"!  If he truly has good intentions, then he needs to be showing you, instead of trying so hard to convince you.

Here's to successful dating!